Remember when your heart simply soared at the sight of your lover? What has happened to those wonderful feelings? Does it feel like the fireworks have fizzled? The stresses of building careers, raising families, paying bills, meeting commitments, leave little time for relationships. Each person in a committed relationship wants to feel that ones partner gets his or her essence. When there is not time and energy set aside to nurture the relationship/marriage the fireworks fizzle and each partner feels emotionally alone.
Do something that you know will please your partner
It is the little things that that have a long lasting effect on love. Your partner may feel pleasure if you cook something you know your partner likes, or finish a project that has been in process far too long, compliment on appearance, or suggest you will do something that you know he/she would enjoy.
Do acts of random kindness
It is the little things that have the long-lasting effect on love. What would give your partner pleasure today? Try doing something you know would please your partner, call to say ?I love you? for no reason, doing exactly what you said you would do, or taking that extra minute by going above and beyond to please your partner.
Appreciate and acknowledge the positive
Pay attention to what your partner does that pleases you then acknowledge it. When you spot a loving act, speak up! Don?t let a single opportunity pass by. Always let your partner know how much he or she means to you and how appreciative you are of each small caring action.
Listen with an open heart
Hear what your partner is saying with an openness of heart. You came together by choice accepting your different backgrounds and upbringing. Step back and see your partner objectively. When you do, you will hear and accept whatever is said as belonging to your partner. Listening objectively allows you to hear with an open heart and not from your fear or anxiety.
Be fair
Inside yourself you know what it means to play fair in your relationship. When you act with integrity and are fair to yourself, you will automatically do the right thing for you and your partner.
Carry two goals within you simultaneously
The big goal is that you would like to rekindle your relationship. The action goals are the little steps you take every day by being fair, doing random acts of kindness, letting go of blame and criticism, by speaking in ?I? messages and listening with an open mind.
Trust and love take time to be rekindled
It is through acceptance and giving that love is shown. You will find that gradually your loneliness and anger will lessen and friendship and intimacy will grow
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